Four things to remember to help keep your self-love game strong.
1. Where you go in your mind is where you are.
You’ll hear me say this over and over: having a consistent meditation practice is key. It’s my most used tool because it helps me shift my mindset from one of fear to love. It’s also my personal belief that any time you use your mind for good you’re meditating. Now, of course, you can learn more detailed forms of meditation but for our purposes, good feeling thoughts are all that is needed. Your eyes don’t need to be closed, there are no time requirements, no postures to learn and you can even do it while driving.
2. Take the little wins.
Love is a grand emotion that can require a subtle touch at times. You can’t force it on yourself, or bend its will to your own, all you can do is gently allow it into your heart. Sometimes that means taking that inch of relief that may come in the form of letting go of an argument or forgiving someone who never apologized. Energy is always moving, so choose if you want to take the inch in the direction of love or the mile towards fear.
3. It’s a must not a should.
On the big to-do list of life, learning to love yourself, in my opinion, is the most important skill you can have. My good friend and spiritual sister Ngozi Paul heard her yoga instructor say to the class one day that “self-care is a public service.” The truth of that really resonated with me because when I take care of myself, I am a much nicer person and the world can always use one more person walking around in a good mood spreading joy like confetti. Be the change you wish to see, right?!
4. There are no mistakes.
This might sound like a get out of jail free card, and it is! So many of us have been conditioned to dread getting it “wrong”, and my amazing fiancé always lovingly reminds me to get it wrong and look for the lesson in it that is going to help me grow and there’s always a lesson. If you didn’t need to learn it you wouldn’t have the experience, to begin with. This mindset lets you be the victor of your circumstances rather than the victim.
Thank you so much for reading and if you’ve got a great tip that helps keep your self-love game strong please share in the comments because we’re all in this together.
Lots of love